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Jenny Griffin is an Earth Goddess, Intuitive Messenger, Mystic and Mentor. She is passionate about the process of change and the power it has to introduce you to your power.
Change: Are you Blocking it?

Change: Are you Blocking it?

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Yup, change can be challenging.

It may be inevitable, it might happen every day; that doesn’t mean it’s comfortable.

Nine times out of ten it’s not entirely unexpected. Something will come up to indicate change is on the horizon.

Sometimes challenges are presented as old wounds or fears getting triggered. Sometimes you begin to feel resistance to activities, people or situations that used to light you up.

Are you aware of the signs? If so, how good are you at instigating the actions needed to move towards change? If not, have you developed habits designed to resist change, which now stand between you and the life you desire?

It takes conscious, mindful attention to work with the flows of energy moving through your life on a daily basis. You’re not meant to be a static, stationary being. You’re designed to travel dynamically through life, exploring and tasting the variety of sensations and experiences offered each moment.

The following are a few common habits that may be keeping you from making changes in your life that lead you towards your goals and desires.

1) No change in the ‘same old, same old’ routine:

Albert Einstein said, ‘The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.’

It’s not always easy to recognize when you’re approaching things from the same angle, because the problem or situation may at first appear to be different. For example, some people leave one (unwanted) relationship to find themselves immediately in another, ‘better’ one. The situation might appear different (the partner has changed, the home may have changed, etc), but if you haven’t changed the way you approach the act of relating and the recurring patterns that caused issues in the past, you’ll quickly find yourself in a very familiar situation.

In other words, the common denominator in all your life experiences is YOU. It’s not easy to look at ways you’ve blocked yourself from changing, because it often involves facing some ‘dark’ stuff you’d rather not face. It feels easier on the surface to ditch the whole situation and start fresh. Everything seems peachy when it’s new and apparently problem-free. It’s called ‘the grass is greener…’ syndrome.

To see if you can shift your perspective and allow new, unforeseen potentials to show themselves, start bringing consciousness to the challenges in your life. See if the act of looking at things from multiple angles allows for things to change in miraculous ways, with minimal effort and discomfort. Take responsibility for your role in challenges and be willing to look at how habitual patterning may have contributed to each situation.

2) Using your mind to ‘logic it out’:

Brains are truly amazing things, however, they don’t have all the answers. Humans minds are full of inter-generational beliefs, wounds, projections, collective norms, and all kinds of other goodies that get in the way of creatively feeling your way to a solution.

Sometimes you don’t want to face impending changes, so you ignore the urges in your heart and soul and rationalize reasons not to change. It feels easier to push through discomfort or deny pain by thinking it out rather than feeling it out. That’s okay, it’s natural to want to avoid hurtful situations or revelations. Eventually the urges to change knock a little louder until you’re forced to listen.

A combination of mind and heart is the best mixture to solve any problem.

When you drop the need to be right or the need for external validation and access your heart’s wisdom, you’ll find the two work beautifully in harmony. Your ego finds all kinds of fun ways to present blocks as ways to keep you safe. Habits that are so deeply ingrained feel like fixed aspects of who you are. When you trust your feelings as a guide, you can distinguish the sound of the fear-based ego from the voice of reason that dwells deep within.

Step back from trying to solve problems and see what happens. In the act of surrendering rational thought, you leave room for other solutions to present themselves.

3) Hanging out in the relative safety of familiar fear:

There are so many things we’re taught to fear, and still other fears that develop as we explore different experiences in our lives. In holding on to stories of past hurts, failures and disappointments, you can develop a whole slew of reasons not to try new things. You might learn to avoid certain choices that potentially lead to pain.

Once you shift your perspective to encompass a broader view, with every experience as a vital lesson in your expansion, you move from fear to enthusiastic engagement with life. When you acknowledge and integrate wisdom from past experiences, whatever arrives is different. It reflects the inner changes you’ve been through to clear away old patterning and beliefs, and allows you to grow in new ways.

If you fear you’ll only draw the same pattern to you and experience the same disappointment, you’re in a state of constriction that more or less guarantees you’ll find what you expect. This is not to say you deserve ‘bad’ things; it’s to say that your belief in your story perpetuates it. This is a habitual safety zone. As much as it might bring ‘undesired’ situations to you, it is a familiar energy that some part of you has deemed safe.

To shift from it, you can rewrite your old stories to incorporate the lessons and wisdom of the old and leave the rest behind.

4) Not following through:

Are you full of great ideas and consistently create wonderful things, only to find you give up if they don’t receive the response you’d hoped? Do you fill pages with cool ideas and never begin the projects?

This is also rooted in the comfort of the familiar, that safety zone where it feels easy and secure to dream up ideas but not to put them out in the world. What fear is behind this? Is it a fear of rejection that holds you back? A fear of success? It’s a good idea to look at what’s blocking your ability to follow-through. What’s happened in your life that’s left you feeling like the world isn’t safe for your creations?

Looking at patterns, wounds and early experiences can help uncover the roots of the block. Perhaps an offhanded comment by a parent or teacher inadvertently left you feeling inadequate. Perhaps consistent messaging from someone you admired led you to believe that you were undeserving of success, happiness or love.

Wherever the root lies, ask yourself if it’s really true. You’ll know by how you feel. Most likely, the root is something projected onto you by another and accepted by part of you as the truth. This has then been used to keep you safe from proving it to be true (which is the fear).

5) The Art of Self-sabotage:

The habit of self-sabotage can stem from multiple reasons (or excuses), and manifests in many different ways. Think of addictions and rationalizations as ways to sabotage yourself from making changes. What about habitual descriptions of yourself (or another) in one way which avoids looking at other sides of the story?

Fear of the unknown, of failure, of success, of intimacy, of connection, of disconnection; all of these can lead to self-sabotage that keeps you from facing the underlying fear. These fears may be yours, or they may have been instilled by someone or something external, and adopted by you as part of the truth.

What does self-sabotage look like?

It can look like avoidance of a person, task or issue that causes unwanted feelings to arise. You might find 101 reasons not to do something and no reasons to do it. It can look like making busy work a priority over connections with others or soul-fulfilling work. There are many ways it can show up in your life, and you’re the only one who truly knows how it looks to you.

Look at your daily tasks and habits to see if they’re in alignment with your true needs and desires. Anything that feels like it’s filling a perceived hole or masking a problem without addressing it may be self-sabotage. Chances are, it’s only exacerbating the underlying issue.

Sometimes all that’s needed to instigate larger shifts is a small change in perception.

Big Love,
~ Jenny

* I am the author of this post. You might find the original version, which was used with my permission without attribution, on Your Earth Angel (yourearthangel.com) *

2017: Annual Tarot Reading

2017: Annual Tarot Reading

This is an annual intuitive tarot reading for a general audience covering the year 2017. The year is divided into quarters, each covering a three-month block.

I’m using the Llewellyn Tarot (by Anna-Marie Ferguson) to read the main energy, supported by Healing with the Angels Oracle Cards (by Doreen Virtue) to offer guidance and possible attitudes or actions to take. I begin the reading by pulling a Goddess Guidance Oracle card (by Doreen Virtue) to offer a theme for the year, which permeates the energy of each quarter and gives an idea of the overarching imprint for 2017.

Theme(s) for the year:

Affirmation: You are Radiant

Goddess card: Oonagh (Easy Does It) ‘There is no need to hurry or force things to happen. Everything is occurring in perfect timing.’

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From: The Goddess Guidance Oracle Cards deck by Doreen Virtue (various artists)

This card speaks directly to the fact that this is a One Year in a brand new nine-year cycle. This is just the beginning, as we’ve spent the past year clearing away old patterning and structures that were no longer serving our expansion, now we can begin to plant new seeds.

Oonagh reminds us not to rush the process – it may feel like slow going, but seeds take time to blossom.

Be vigilant in your energetic output.

The affirmation ties in, as well – radiate, express and emanate; don’t force your way of being/doing on others but shine from within yourself. Allow the flow of all things to intermingle, creating a tapestry of beauty and joy.

While things may appear to be the same on the surface, your inner world has transformed. Trust the process of change you’ve been through to guide your choices and behaviour. This is the new.

First Quarter (January/February/March):

Tarot card: 10 of Wands

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From: The Llewellyn Tarot by Anna-Marie Ferguson

This feels like a residual energy from 2016 – almost as if we haven’t yet realised that the burdens we’ve been carrying through the last nine-year cycle can be put down.

It may take a few months to get used to the feelings of freedom that have arisen as a result of all the letting go we’ve done.

We are at the tail end of a Mercury Retrograde period that began in mid-December, and that carries forth through this month. So if it feels like a slow start, or feels like there’s an echo of old patterns kicking around, go with it.

Don’t over-analyse or assume there’s more to heal or release, just allow it to fall away as the months progress.

As you introduce new habits, ways of being, and perspectives, you’ll see the inner changes reflected without.

Remember what the theme of the year is – easy does it. Don’t push, allow. Flow is key to ease and harmony.

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From: Healing with the Angels oracle deck by Doreen Virtue (various artists)

Angel card: Meditation

This is a reminder to take time to re-align your energetic integrity frequently. Stay tuned in to your inner knowing and trust the guidance you receive.

Temper outer work with down time and solitude. Connect to your SELF, first, and go out into the world feeling whole and autonomous.

Bring your focus back to your heart, and to your breath. Let external chaos ensue, while you stay tapped into peace.

Second Quarter (April/May/June):

Tarot card: 9 of Wands

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From: The Llewellyn Tarot by Anna-Marie Ferguson

I love that the first two cards are a 10 and a 9. Very significant – 10/1 is an ending and a beginning all rolled into one. A 9 is a culmination of energy that in this case reminds us of what we’ve left behind.

Before you become, you have to un-become whatever went before. The main word I hear is integration.

A huge part of the nine year cycle we’ve just finished was working through collective and individual stories aligned with the victim/martyr paradigm. Exploring the duality of experiences that contributed to imbalance. Now we’ve done a huge amount of clearing and shifting, are we still tied to the old story in any way?

The image in the card draws attention to the man, who is bandaged and standing just ahead of eight wands. This to me, says focus on what you’ve learned from the battles and wounds, NOT on the wounds themselves.

How do you go forward fearlessly, in your bandaged and slightly tired state, to embrace a whole new way of being? Can you amalgamate all the lessons into one wand, which you carry as support? Not banging the drum of the old story, but using the old story to fuel your passions in how to create beauty from the so-called wreckage.

Angel card: Harmony

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From: Healing with the Angels oracle cards by Doreen Virtue (various artists)

Beautiful! This ties in with the first quarter and with the idea that inner peace leads to outer peace. Can you stay aligned in your own freedom, peace and integrity while all you see around you is disruption?

Think of harmony in terms of music – a chord is made up of disparate notes, just as a symphony is made up of multiple instruments playing parts of a larger melody. If you focussed on the differences, you’d hear chaos; instead you hear magic. This is the way of The Universe – chaos translated into harmony.

It also speaks more individually to the idea of finding your unique song. I hear Mama Cass stepping in with ‘Make your Own Kind of Music’. Your contribution to the divine harmony of the Universe is also your piece of chaos. And it is a VITAL piece – the tapestry we weave as a collective needs every thread.

Third Quarter (July/August/September):

Tarot card: The Universe (21)

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From: The Llewellyn Tarot by Anna-Marie Ferguson

This card represents graduation, ascension, and stepping into wholeness in a new way. By the middle of this one year, we begin to feel a different kind of freedom, as if we have started to embody the changes we’ve worked so hard for.

There has been great releasing both on individual and collective levels, and now you will be practising the art of shining in your own way, while honouring the gifts and specialness of all around you.

As each being embraces wholeness and their unique contribution to All That Is, we open ourselves up to accepting the differences of others from a place of serenity and unconditionality.

Celebrate the beauty of the chaotic symphony and what it teaches you.

Angel card: Serenity

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From: Healing with the Angels oracle cards by Doreen Virtue (various artists)

Wow! This is the third quarter with a very similar message – serenity is within, first. Focus on your vibrational emanation and allow yourself to SHINE.

This speaks directly to the message from Oonagh, who provided the theme for the year. Relax and express the truth of your heart. Don’t push but allow for flow.

Generate serenity within and externals will not interfere with your desire for peace and joy. The tarot card this quarter also suggests ways to feel more serene – allow others to have their experience and honour your differences as aspects of a greater whole.

See the world and all things in it as mirrors for your expansion, not competition or reasons to fight.

Look to the ‘small’ things to show you where serenity lies. Nature provides many clues. Stay connected within to build stronger connections without.

Fourth Quarter (October/November/December):

Tarot card: The Star (17)

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From: The Llewellyn Tarot by Anna-Marie Ferguson

Wow. You can’t make this stuff up. What did I just say about shining? The Star encourages you to recognise the beautiful impact you have on the world, just as a star lights up the night sky.

As the chaos of the symphony creates beauty, the randomness of the night sky paints a breathtaking picture. You are no less magical than the individual stars.

It is time to recognise and embrace your magnificence and really SHINE! It feels like you’ve had opportunities to practice over the past few years, and last year cleared out whatever was impeding your capacity to glow your brightest.

Now you are shining from a different understanding of who you are, without putting others’ needs ahead of your own or waiting for them to catch up with you. You do everyone a disservice by dimming your light.

Give yourself this gift. Really BE the you you came here to be.

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From: The Healing with the Angels Oracle deck by Doreen Virtue (various artists)

Angel card: Focus

Your focus is YOU: your joy, your purpose, your capacity for love and compassion, your passions, your unique magic. You. Focus on emanating that truth in the world and see how things fall into place.

 

Any burdens of the old are echoes of past experiences and have no bearing on this moment. They have helped you to become, in divine timing, to express yourself as you are now.

So much magic.

Big Love,
~ Jenny

* If you’d like a personalised annual intuitive tarot reading, which offers energetic overviews for all twelve months, please see more information here *

The Art of Self-appreciation

The Art of Self-appreciation

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How can you find self-appreciation in a world full of reflections that want you to believe you’re not good enough?

It’s important to find it, because it can reduce stress, increase well-being and engender heightened feelings of success.

What is healthy self-appreciation?

There’s a certain humility and relaxation that comes of confidently, quietly acknowledging your innate talents and gifts, and using them in ways that light your heart.

It’s not an ego-driven, vociferous exhortation of all your best assets, followed up by proof in the form of photos, documents and extraordinary testimonials.

The following list suggests a few ideas to make an art of self-appreciation.

1)   Drop the comparisons

This is a biggie. It’s easy to appreciate yourself when you’re the only one around. It becomes more difficult when someone else enters the picture and suddenly one of you is ‘less than’ in your mind. This is not only when self-judgements kick in, but also judgements of others as a way to make yourself feel better (which doesn’t work).

So, take it back to the initial idea: learn to appreciate yourself when you’re the only one around. Appreciate how you look, how you feel, the sound of your voice, the way you smell. Appreciate the amazing things you do in a day (even if they’re seemingly ‘small,’ like getting up, making a healthy breakfast and starting your work).

Your body is a miracle! It can move on its own, you can see, feel and breathe! Don’t compare today to yesterday, last week or last year, it’s all new. Every day offers a chance to be reborn and to begin appreciating more.

As you go out in the world, acknowledge and appreciate the diversity you see. Some people are tall, some aren’t; some are round, some are lean; and skin comes in a variety of shades. This is the incredible diversity we have available to us, to add to our unique journey through life. Everything you encounter adds a new piece of information to your day, and your life. Each person you meet has a different sense of the world, seen through their eyes. There can be no comparison, because the starting points are completely dissimilar.

Observing and comparing are two different things. In order to find resonance, discernment is necessary. If you take the value judgements out of comparison you’re left with observation and neutrality. That’s what you’re aiming for. As ever, it begins with you.

2)   Relinquish expectations

This will feel incredibly freeing as you begin to notice how much unhappiness springs from the expectation-disappointment cycle. Holding expectations of events or situations that haven’t yet happened is entirely unfair. It’s future-baiting, and it’s dishonest.

It’s one thing to feel anticipation or excitement for an event that holds mystery and potential, like a first date. Expectation is different; it feels weighty, laden with limitation and control, like an ‘if… then’ formula. If ____this____ happens… then I will feel ____this way____. The unspoken limitation is ‘if not… I will be disappointed.’ This is a subtle manipulation tactic, and isn’t an honest assessment of a situation because the intention on entering isn’t pure.

With an intention of appreciation, life flows smoothly and you’re open to infinite possibilities. This includes everything to do with the self. When you hold yourself to standards defined by you or someone else, you don’t appreciate all aspects of whatever arises. When you fail, you’ll believe your self to be a failure, instead of appreciating the experience as a great opportunity for personal growth.

Without expectation, it’s easier to appreciate every moment and every experience.

3)   Ease into the flow

This ties in to and expands on number 2.

So many people have their lives planned down to the last second. We live in a busy world, and are expected to be productive and active all the time. Planning seems to be a necessity, trying to fit all the activities, chores and fun into a day.

Here’s something to think about: over-planning limits your possibilities. If you have every moment of your life planned, it can lack spontaneity, which leads to incredible things.

When every moment is planned and there’s no room for flexibility, what happens when external circumstances (weather, traffic, etc) throw a wrench in the works? It’s harder to appreciate yourself and the moment when you’re in a state of worry that you won’t make the meeting despite your best-laid plans.

When you’re in a state of appreciation, you’re in a far better condition to respond to events that might throw you off. You’re relaxed, calm and know you can handle whatever arises in a creative and dynamic way. Then this becomes a self-perpetuating cycle: the more you ease into the flow, the more you appreciate your natural ability to respond to life creatively.

4)   Head towards your Joy

Self-appreciation begins within. Obvious? One way to find it quickly is to follow the joy. Experiences that leave you feeling light and joyful are sure ways to appreciate whatever is happening in that moment, including ALL the choices you made to be there.

In a state of worry, constriction or anger, it’s hard to appreciate anything, let alone yourself. You might chastise yourself for poor decisions or awkward choices. That doesn’t help! As often as possible, head towards your joy, and you’ll find yourself appreciating life more and more.

From that point of view, you can turn the appreciation inwards, noticing how your joy affects the world around you (as within, so without). From the perspective of joy, it is easier to see past or current ‘mistakes’ as stepping stones, leading you on a merry path to a life filled with diverse and expansive experiences.

5)    Do a self-appreciation life review

This is a great way to find appreciation for yourself and your life, with all its ups and downs. Think of all your accomplishments and wisdom with pride and gratitude. What things do you feel you could have done better? Start making lists. List them all, the good, the bad and the ugly.

For example, if you had never failed or caused another pain, would you have learned to change the way you approached certain situations or people? If you had never owed money, you might not have had the opportunity to explore your feelings of value . All of life’s experiences have valuable information to offer, and all of them can be appreciated for one reason or another.

As you take stock of your life, you’ll find many reasons to appreciate yourself. You’ll likely find examples of things like resilience, strength, the capacity to learn and grow, the ability to love deeply, flexibility, a sense of humour, and many gifts and talents you’d forgotten about. You can do this regularly, adding new experiences to the list to see how they contribute to your constantly developing self.

Big Love,
~ Jenny

* I am the author of this post. You might find the original, which was used with my permission, without attribution, on Your Earth Angel (yourearthangel.com) *

Abundance is your Birthright

Abundance is your Birthright

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Abundance has become a catchphrase in certain circles; creating it, accessing it, increasing it…

What exactly is it, and how do you tap into it?

Abundance is not just about monetary wealth, it is acknowledgement of a state of fruitfulness in all areas of your life.

It can be increased by drawing attention to the already existing abundance in your current experience. There is always abundance; it is a matter of focus.

Think about a mountain of (perhaps unwanted) debt. That is an abundance of debt. It may not be what you’d like to see as abundance, but unless you can see all aspects of it, you won’t be able to draw on that energy to increase the stuff you do want more of. So, try to view the concept as a neutral experience, rather than a positive or negative. It is simply an aspect of existence.

To bring your focus to abundance, think about what exists around you that you may be overlooking. How many hairs are on your head? How many breaths do you take in a day? That is abundance. An infinite number of things exist in your daily experience that are perfect examples of abundance.

Shift your Focus

You can shift the perception of lack in your life by focussing on things that exist in great quantities. Think of a tree, filled with leaves or needles. Imagine the beach, covered in sand or pebbles. The ocean, filled with infinite drops of water, forms one great abundant body.

Do you have many outstanding bills? Think of all the things you now have that contributed to the accumulation of those bills. You’re surrounded by four walls, furniture, clothes, heating, hot water; all the things you need are at your fingertips, or within your capacity to access.

Even if you live sparsely, in a state of near-ascetic simplicity, there is abundance surrounding you. As I write this, there are over 7 billion, 400 million people on the planet! That’s a whole lot of potential new friends, each and every day. There are 196 countries to visit in seven continents scattered across the earth. A human body has many trillion cells, each one with its own purpose! There are 24 hours in a day, 7 days in a week and 52 weeks in a year; that’s an abundance of time for you to enjoy!

Acknowledge the Abundance

It’s always within your grasp to find and recognize abundance in your life. By defining it in too narrow a way, you limit the potential for its expansion. Be willing to look at it from every angle: exploring the abundance of pain after a breakup or loss; acknowledging a mountain of debt as abundance; seeing how the concept is ever-present in your experience on Earth. Recognize that the cloud of mosquitoes around your head is an abundance of annoying, blood-sucking pests.

Once you’re able to acknowledge that it exists everywhere, you can begin to shift your focus to the abundance you prefer to see. If you pay off a debt, you can celebrate that you now have an opportunity to see abundance from a different angle. You can begin to create pathways to the things you want by acknowledging where you may have been focussing on an abundance of the things you didn’t want.

Life will always greet you where you are. Abundance is your birthright; this is true for every being on the planet. Your having something does not mean another must go without. If you tap into your ability to focus on and create more of what you desire, others will use that as an example to do the same in their lives.

Big Love,
~ Jenny

* I am the author of this post. You might find the original, which was used with my permission, without attribution, on Your Earth Angel (yourearthangel.com) *

How do you know if you’re happy?

How do you know if you’re happy?

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How do you know if you’re happy?

While that might seem like a simple question, it’s not necessarily easy to answer. What does it mean to be happy? What are you using to define or measure your happiness? How does it compare to others’ happiness?

Social scientists have created a number of external measures of happiness, including the Oxford Happiness Inventory, the Satisfaction with Life Scale, and the Panas Scale. All of them involve questionnaires that cover different areas of your life to assess your level of satisfaction (or dissatisfaction) within each.

In 1972 the King of Bhutan declared that Gross National Happiness (GNH) was a preferable measure of a nation’s health than Gross National Product. Since then, the government collects regular data on the happiness quotient. They use eight measurement factors which contribute to happiness including: physical, mental and spiritual health; education; and standards of living (source: wikipedia).

Measuring Happiness

The challenge with measuring happiness is that it is such a subjective thing. What makes me happy might have no effect on your levels of happiness. It might even make you sad, or angry. It might also make me feel happy or satisfied now, and neutral later in the day. So it’s difficult to create blanket questionnaires or measurement tools to assess happiness levels of large groups of people .

It’s only slightly easier to measure in yourself. How do you know if/when you are happy?

There are different layers to that question. Happiness doesn’t exclude the possibility of ups and downs. It would be more accurate to say that every state of mind includes the possibility of its opposite (unconditionality). If your default is happiness, you will traverse life’s inevitable waves and return to a state of happiness. Your recovery time might be quicker than someone whose default is less happy, just as an elite runner will have a quicker recovery time on uphills than a beginner.

From a default state of happiness, life’s inevitable challenges feel more manageable than from a default state of trauma or survival. You likely have different tools to cope with difficulties than someone who has experienced a less happy state. You also know that happiness feels most peaceful to you, so your desire is to return to that state, meaning you’ll work through the challenges with that as your goal.

External vs. Internal

Another challenge in measuring happiness is that we’re constantly sold very different ideas on what ‘should’ make us happy. You see people with bigger houses, cars or boats than you and they appear happy, so you might think the answer lies there. Perhaps you feel unhappy in your current relationship, so you seek out another partner, thinking happiness will be found there. These things will provide a temporary happiness, a sort of ‘instant gratification’ fix that soothes an immediate need, but lasting happiness is much deeper than that.

You have the capacity to create your own happiness, and you alone are responsible for it. Think about the different aspects of your life that contribute to feelings of well-being, and ask yourself if they’re balanced. Ask yourself if you truly know yourself, your needs, and what makes you feel happiest. If not, start there.

Each of us has a unique set of desires, dreams and personal goals, and if you lose sight of them you may begin to feel less happy. Passions are great indicators of how connected you feel to your purpose. Does your work light you up? Are you excited to start each new project and contribute your beautiful energy to your creations? Living a passionless, apathetic life is not a happy way to exist. It creates patterns of dysfunction and stuckness that are hard to shift.

Get clear on what happiness feels like for you. Where do you feel most connected, to yourself and everything around you? Do certain activities transport you to another place, so you find yourself wondering where those hours went and why you feel so at peace? What makes you laugh out loud or buzz with excitement? All of these point to happiness and joy and are great indicators of your purpose and passions.

Know your Happiness Needs

One question I’ve heard is, ‘what would you do if money and time were no object?’ That’s a good place to start. It gives you an idea of the things you’d rather be doing, as often as possible. Are you doing them (regularly)? Is there a way to do more of them? What do you feel is stopping you?

Other aspects of happiness involve physical and material needs. Can you be happy if you’re starving and don’t know where you’re going to sleep that night? Some people can. Others find real joy in their homes and the comfort they provide. There is no right answer except the one that’s right for you. Again this comes back to being honest with yourself, and clear on your own needs.

There are certain indicators that can point you to unhappiness, as well. Do you escape or hide using addictions to mask your unmet emotional needs? You’re probably unhappy. If you find it hard to engage with others, especially when they’re happy, you may be unhappy. If you’re unable to laugh, feel joy, or connect to things others find uplifting, you guessed it, you’re unhappy.

DO what makes you Happy

Look at the factors contributing to your current state of mind to see if you can make steps to change any of them. If you’re unsatisfied in your job, look to further your education or training, or add a variety of tasks that feel more uplifting. If you feel stuck in a relationship, see if you can come up with creative ways to add more magic to your interactions.

Look to Bhutan as an example, and put your happiness first.

Create your own happiness scale and measure different areas of your life against it. If you see others trying things they really enjoy and that appear to make them happy, why not try them? You don’t have to continue anything that doesn’t contribute to your happiness, but you don’t know until you try. Think back to when you were a child, about the things you used to do for hours on end that made you happy. Try those.

Finally, when you find it, spread it around. There’s nothing better than happiness shared.

Big Love,
~ Jenny

* I am the author of this post. You might find the original, which was used with my permission, without attribution, on Your Earth Angel (yourearthangel.com) *